Human beings have been living in communities for centuries, from the very first gathering of people to support the common cause of providing food shelter and water as well as protection from foreign harm.
We’ve grown into diverse and focused communities that help us grow in ways we never imagined, with support from individuals and leadership who were able to accomplish tasks much bigger than all of us.
Communities come in different shapes and forms and even different words define them! The smallest unit consists of 3 people and it can also be called a family, group of friends, classmates, school, meet-ups, it can go on an on, with one of the larger ones called movements or a city and country, the human race.
For the past few years I’ve been part of many communities with out realising it’s affect on me and my behaviour.
When you work at a company or are looking to be part of one you’re essentially filling out an application to join a specific community. You tell them your experience, and they evaluate how you’ll behave and finally accept or reject you.
Then there’s social communities that you can come and go as you please depending on your level of involvement shows your commitment and support of others.
Communities are powerful but you have to be willing to give. Yes you have to give the community what you have the most precious and limited and that is time. It’s something that can never be replenished and the more you put of this time in a community the more quality connections you will make.
Here are some of the communities that have helped me grow into my own in the past decade.
Community of Technologists
Tech and hackers helped me to connect with other folks that were also building hackintosh computers using compatible hardware to be able to run MacOS, I joined this community back in 2005. I tinkered and went through hours of understanding the tech that enabled a successful build. I left the community when I bought myself a MacBook Pro 17”, although I continued to use a hackintosh machine well into 2017, when I could no longer keep up with the demands of a changing operating system.
Community of Inventors.
Over the past decade or around the time crowdfunding came to being, I’ve backed over 270 projects on the many platforms inventors go to such as Kickstarter, Indiegogo, and other inventor communities. They’ve provided me with joy, disappointment, and unlimited grace. I can probably create a list of successful and unsuccessful projects but that’ll have to be another post. What I learned through them is any of the projects that I backed became it’s own community, around each project there’s anywhere from 10-6000 backers all rooting for the creator and the invention they created, it is absolutely fascinating to see these come to being and then ending as they finish with the delivery of the said product/service/software.
Community of Cyclists
I’ve been cycling as long as I can remember, I used to have a banana bike when I was in my youth, then upgraded to a BMX, then a mountain bike and unfortunately, each bike I owned was stolen at one point or another back in Saudi Arabia. When I moved to the US I wanted to get a bike but never really got around to it mainly because now I was driving a car. The main reason and purpose I used my bike for back in saudi was transportation, we didn’t wear a helmet and it was a great mode to get from one point to another, from my house to my friends house and then hang out.
Since 2013 I’ve own the same mountain bike and why a mountain bike? because I was consulted with a cyclist that was a mountain biker, if I had asked a road cyclist I would’ve been persuaded to get a road-bike. Suffice it to say I now own two bikes a mountain bike with swappable road and mountain wheels and a road bike for those long distance rides and physical fitness. In 2016 I caught the road cycling bug when I rode my first 40 miles on a road bike in New York for a cause where 30-40 thousand people showed up for the ride and it was raining! I continued to work at it and in 2017 I was able to ride over 1500 miles, the following few years didn’t amount to as much biking due to other activities, new baby and well other hobbies.
Community of Muslims
I was born a muslim, am a muslim and practice as regularly as possible, its enabled me to connect with other muslims and find similarities of passions. Of course it is such a broad community that it isn’t always possible to continue a conversation on that specific basis. We always need to find deeper connections that bind us in a much closer connection. This is a topic that will definitely need more research and well time to write about my involvement through islamic communities, studies and the pursuit to be a better muslim
Community of Leaders
This is definitely a new aspect that I’ve come to adore and grow into. See we all have leadership ingrained in us, we just have to dig deeper into the self and find what really triggers or gets our passions to flow. When we step up and take charge of a topic that we’re passionate about we appoint ourselves as leaders without knowing. I recently did this 4-5 months ago when I introduced Tech Talk Tuesdays to a Facebook group that I belong, and for the past 4 months, I’ve been going live in the group talking about technology from software, hardware, and even life in general. It’s enabled me to define my why and my story too.
Community of Filmmakers
I became a filmmaker or a videographer when we were first introduced to a video camcorder back when my dad got one as a gift. It used very specific tapes in it which recorded the image on to a magnetic tape rolled up in an 8mm tape. The rest is history and what gives me the passion to continually learn, implement and teach the techniques.
Community of Drivers
It was late 2013 Conan O Brien went on a ride in a Lyft Car! Along with Kevin Hart and Ice Cube, the video was epic and I was IN! I wanted to be that Lyft car drive and it was probably something pulled together by the folks at Lyft in conjunction with Conans show. Regardless I was signed up and in January I got accepted to be a Lyft driver.
I drove my 2010 Infiniti G37x as the Lyft car and everyone was immediately impressed that this type of car can also be a Lyft ride. Through the Lyft Facebook group I was able to connect with fellow Lyft drivers and they really cultivated a family of like minded folks and drivers. I joined many social gathering events over the following months as I drove for Lyft and talked with other Lyft drivers through FB messenger groups and a Voice based walkie talkie app. Denver was a great place to drive. Since I moved to the east clary I’ve only managed to give maybe 30 rides total because of time spent on family. I still have an active standing as a Lyft drive and own the Fluffy Pink moustache that attached to the front of the car.
Community of Photographers
In 2013 another thing that I did was join a few meet-up groups that focused on teaching photography and go on weekends to choice spots and capture the world around us. I learned how to use prime lenses, composition, and DSLR cameras
Community of Beekeepers
Yup I got into beekeeping end of 2017, took a class in winter of 2018 and started beekeeping in Spring. What really inspired me to get into beekeeping? A few years ago my wife and I took our almost 2 year old to an allergist. We knew he had allergies so we wanted to be more certain around which allergies are affecting him. The doctor suggested local honey to remedy for seasonal allergies. This sparked an idea in my head to discover local honey and where we could find it. Then a friend of mine asked if he could borrow my camera to capture releasing a few bee hives for his small farm.
Community of Speakers
Community of Teachers
Community of Hobbyists
Community of Gadgeteers
Community of Podcasters
Community of Live Streamers
Community of Designers
Community of Developers
Community of Artists
Community of Writers
Community of Authors
Community of Builders
Community of Youtubers
The more I think about this the more communities emerge from my mind.
We’re always growing and each community helps us get to the next level, the next evolution, the next phase, the next chapter of our lives.
It’s fascinating and inspiring to see growth within us and in those around us, what’s really neat is when you get to be the one seeing through to the transformation of others.
It’s been tough to write and post here on a daily basis, but like Seth Godin says it’s going to make you more creative than you already are.
How will it make me creative? Well by simply writing and getting the things out of my head onto paper or a blog is a great way to analyse my own thoughts and feelings
We forget to feel and express those feelings daily. Often scrolling through posts, apps, messages, groups, simply to find meaning or something that’ll ignite the fire to be creative or is it just to pass the time and help where we can.
It’s been 10 months since the last curated post here and there’s a ton of great points regarding siblings and how to communicate. And I haven’t been good at it at all.
I asked a question today on my FB, if folks that I know have a morning writing routine. I don’t have one and I plan to use this space to write down my thoughts.
I’ve been listening, responding and helping those around me that have asked the question.
I’ll sometimes ask questions and get an idea of what’s the lay if the land. But what I really need is a way to integrate all of my efforts to line up to the same direction.
I’ve learned a lot and I’ve implemented a lot as well. Time to keep building and creating is here.
This topic of being closer to my siblings has been on my mind for the longest time, sure growing up I think I got along fine with everyone. My memory is something of a mystery as I don’t really think all that much about the past.
But as I grow older, a lot of these thoughts come back to me, and anytime that I had tried to create a safe space for and be close to my siblings I just never know what to say.
Sure there are the occasional squabbles we have between siblings, but there’s always an elephant in the room of some sort.
So what are some of the ways you can try to get closer to your siblings?
1. Be Compassionate
As we grow older we start closing ourselves off by beating about the bush and creating barriers in our minds, we simply need to treat ourselves as we would a small child like a 1-2-year-old kid learning to crawl or walk or run. We give them a lot of leeways and are super patient with them. WE have to remember that we’re not all alone and that we need to let your siblings into your life and treat them with patience, support, and mindfulness.
2. Be Nice to Each Other
Just like we’re being compassionate to ourselves we need to treat each other how we’d like to be treated. Afterall because your siblings are your blood it’s extra painful when we hear back something that we weren’t expecting. So be nice to each other and give them room to speak and tell their stories.
3. Lend a Hand When you Can
The hardest thing for any one person is to ask for help. It’s something either you’re not taught this in school, but it is ok to ask for help and a lot of the times we’re not able to ask for help because of our own ego and intuitions and the backlash and rejection that comes with it. So as we grow up we stop asking for help. So when you have the ability or not lend a hand to your sibling.
Someone asked Bill Gates if there was anyone richer than him, the story he tells is captivating and shows us the depth of human intuition because he shares that he was helped monetarily by a person that had nothing. And after years Bill wanted to help him (after he was wealthier). It makes that person richer because he was able to give when he had nothing.
4. Always have time to listen
We’re given 2 ears and one mouth for a reason, and then one month we have our tongue is enclosed between our teeth so we can better protect it. To find the time to listen to your siblings and let them vent and tell their stories enables them to have a deeper connection with them.
5. Take time out to have deep conversations
It’s super easy to have short bursts of conversations with your siblings, sharing a post here and there, sharing what’s happening. But when you actually take out the time to listen and talk about the stuff that really matters. This is when you really build that connection and get closer to them. It’s the same as taking the time out to listen, but now you’re having a discussion that means a lot to each one of you.
6. Discuss a topic that your sibling is deeply passionate about
Each of your siblings and if you just have the one they’ll have one specific thing that they’re super passionate about and willing move mountains and take the extra time out to actually go and make it happen. Talk in detail about these topics. This can be fitness related, food-related, sports-related or something that just lights them up. Again we’re just trying to get closer and yes sometimes there will be stuff that’s going to turn you off or something you said will turn them off. But when you’re talking about passions something in your mind clicks and you strengthen the bond.
7. Share a recipe or hack you recently discovered
I’m all about hacks, life hacks, food hacks any kind of hacks. And when I discover something new I want to run out and share what I learned. So if you’re an explorer go out there learn something new and bring it back to share with your sibling(s) and you’ll be amazed if they hadn’t already learned about it. If that’s the case you can always learn how they’re using it and what progress they’ve made.
I’m sure there are a lot more ways to get closer to your siblings, if you have any suggestions, I’d love to hear about them. Because guess what, blood is thicker than water, hence why it hurts when your sibling says something that’s true. I love all of you and I totally care about you.
Thanks for reading and sticking around 🙂
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Wow isn’t that a marketing term? Besides also being a restaurant with the same name.
It’s kinda appropriate because majority of the workforce in the US look forward to the weekend. Thanks God it’s Friday! To mark the beginning of the weekend. After 40-60 hours of work folks can relax and spend two days doing nothing or having fun with the families. Unfortunately we only get 52 weekends.
Which means we’re limited to about 104 days where we can plan out what we want to do. And guess what some weekends the weather isn’t right to go out and play with the kids. Other weekends we gotta go visit families and events. So now those 104 days get reduces down to an even smaller number.
If you haven’t heard of that phrase or watched a few episodes of the famous warner brothers tv show ‘Pinky and the Brain’ you’re totally missing out.
What’s really interesting about the show that stands out to me now more than ever is their relentless pursuit to take over the world.
In each episode Brain and Pinky two lab rats devise a plan that’ll help Brain run the world, their constant failures but then going at it again reminds me how many times we as humans need to persist and keep moving forward.
So today’s plan is to get back on the track to edit the backlogged episodes and keep moving forward.
I also learned a lot of new tips today that I didn’t k it in the beginning. And I think I can help others achieve their goals in building their personal brand as well as establish their authority.
It’s been overt 10 days since the last blogpost and that goes to show that if you’re not thinking about something constantly it’s not going to become a habit overnight.
First of all it is not healthy to be thinking about the same thing over and over that’s why we have reminders and habits.
Secondly, habits form after you consistently do something for 60+ days and adding too many things at once to that habit will also deter you from forming that habit.
A study revealed why most people are not able to keep their New Years resolutions and that is because we add too many thing too many resolutions on ourselves to accomplish.
Take exercising for example, let’s say you work out twice a month and you resolve to do it twice a week, that resolution is already flawed from the get go, because you might be able to stick with it for say 1-2 months, but it’s going to be super hard. Because you’ve added 600% more exercises to your month than you initially managed.
The ideal way to get to 2/week exercise would be to start with 1/week and continue that for 3 months, then introduce 2/week and keep that up for 3 months and gradually get good at keeping up.
So yes reminders are necessary, it can be a person reminding you to do your thing or an app. I remembered that I hadn’t written in 10 days so I thought to myself that I can simply set a reminder on my phone which is with me all waking hours of the day.
So now the reminders app will remind me everyday in the morning to write a blogpost. Hopefully this can help me form this essential habit.
When I restarted blogging I simply depending on my brain to remind me and we can’t do that all the time.
Off loading a simple task such as reminders to an app keeps your mind clear and focus on working more efficiently.
Yea it’s not a massive revelation but it’s good to come to some conclusions without jumping on a mat.
Here’s the problem right, if you’re constantly consuming anything it’s hard to create. You can’t be eating and cooking at the same time, I mean you technically can but that’s not exactly the same as enjoying a meal.
My metaphor on that one fell flat on the face 😂
I missed a lot of days not writing when I promised that I’d continue to write. Do I have excuses? Was I creating content? Yes!
I’ve been writing my book chapter on mobile video production. It’s been a learning experience not just writing but also making sure the information is accurate.
Then yesterday I recorded a few videos to connect the chapter and the information. So I can help my friends make better videos just by using their iPhones.