Advice from 41 year old me to 21 year old me

I’m sure you’ve already heard the phrase ‘Time Flies…’ Well I’m certain and it sure does! I know you’ve just made a major move in your life. Having graduated from high school and moving to completely different country and totally new people. Lucky for you though most of the people you’re going to encounter are related to you in one way or another.

“Two people holding cups of coffee while seated opposite to each other at a round table” by Joshua Ness on Unsplash

You’ll get advice from a lot of people, mostly uncles and aunts. One thing you want to make sure is to keep in touch with your parents. Find a way to talk to them on a weekly basis, if not daily (since you’re moving away from your parents and siblings).

You’re not going to believe this but I’ve been in the U.S. for over 20 years, yes time flies and the past 2 decades are almost a blur.

Looking back I wish that I had access or guidance from someone who had already been in my shoes and helped me step by step.

As you’ll learn through many contacts, we’re a curious kind, we love nostalgia and music (duh).

Here are 5 things I’d suggest you write down and read daily so it stays in your mind:

  1. Find something you’re passionate about & learn everything you can.
  2. Read books on every subject in-line with your passion.
  3. Put your guard down and open your mind.
  4. Find a mentor.
  5. Live everyday with passion.

1. Find something you’re passionate about & learn everything you can.

I know I was passionate about tech, and I focused almost every hour learning about tech, learning about cpus, gpus, harddrive tech and everything I could find. So find something that you’re passionate about and don’t stop till you’ve had enough. And can command conversations talking about your passion.

2. Read books on every subject that’s in-line with your passion.

Reading books and reaching out to the authors is another way to get #3 done. The more you read the better understanding you’ll have of how things work and what it takes to be successful. I’ve been reading a lot more books than I used to when I was younger and it has expanded my mind exponentially.

3. Put your guard down and open your mind.

Yes it might be hard to believe, but having an open mind is a great way to take in advice. Being 20 and going to college, you might think that you already know everything. But the more you learn to have an open mind and avoid distractions the better off you’ll be. Don’t be defensive and accept advice and criticism.

4. Find a Mentor.

The sooner you realize that there’s over 7 billion people in the world and over 300 million just in the United States you’ll know that there are already people that have walked the path you wish to walk. So seek out experts that are already doing what you plan to do and share in the passion.

5. Live everyday with Passion.

Yes this is a phrase used by one of my personal mentors although I’ve only heard him speak over the speakers of my car and earphones. It’s a phrase uttered by the one and only Tony Robbins, he’s mastered the art of conversation and speaking in the most simplest ways to get across complex idealogies. Everyday we get to live, we get to live in a moment that is brand new and an opportunity to change ourselves for the better.