7 easy ways to get closer to your siblings.

7 easy ways to get closer to your siblings.

This topic of being closer to my siblings has been on my mind for the longest time, sure growing up I think I got along fine with everyone. My memory is something of a mystery as I don’t really think all that much about the past.

But as I grow older, a lot of these thoughts come back to me, and anytime that I had tried to create a safe space for and be close to my siblings I just never know what to say.

Sure there are the occasional squabbles we have between siblings, but there’s always an elephant in the room of some sort.

So what are some of the ways you can try to get closer to your siblings?

1. Be Compassionate

As we grow older we start closing ourselves off by beating about the bush and creating barriers in our minds, we simply need to treat ourselves as we would a small child like a 1-2-year-old kid learning to crawl or walk or run. We give them a lot of leeways and are super patient with them. WE have to remember that we’re not all alone and that we need to let your siblings into your life and treat them with patience, support, and mindfulness.

2. Be Nice to Each Other

Just like we’re being compassionate to ourselves we need to treat each other how we’d like to be treated. Afterall because your siblings are your blood it’s extra painful when we hear back something that we weren’t expecting. So be nice to each other and give them room to speak and tell their stories.

3. Lend a Hand When you Can

The hardest thing for any one person is to ask for help. It’s something either you’re not taught this in school, but it is ok to ask for help and a lot of the times we’re not able to ask for help because of our own ego and intuitions and the backlash and rejection that comes with it. So as we grow up we stop asking for help. So when you have the ability or not lend a hand to your sibling.

Someone asked Bill Gates if there was anyone richer than him, the story he tells is captivating and shows us the depth of human intuition because he shares that he was helped monetarily by a person that had nothing. And after years Bill wanted to help him (after he was wealthier). It makes that person richer because he was able to give when he had nothing.

4. Always have time to listen

We’re given 2 ears and one mouth for a reason, and then one month we have our tongue is enclosed between our teeth so we can better protect it. To find the time to listen to your siblings and let them vent and tell their stories enables them to have a deeper connection with them.

5. Take time out to have deep conversations

It’s super easy to have short bursts of conversations with your siblings, sharing a post here and there, sharing what’s happening. But when you actually take out the time to listen and talk about the stuff that really matters. This is when you really build that connection and get closer to them. It’s the same as taking the time out to listen, but now you’re having a discussion that means a lot to each one of you.

6. Discuss a topic that your sibling is deeply passionate about

Each of your siblings and if you just have the one they’ll have one specific thing that they’re super passionate about and willing move mountains and take the extra time out to actually go and make it happen. Talk in detail about these topics. This can be fitness related, food-related, sports-related or something that just lights them up. Again we’re just trying to get closer and yes sometimes there will be stuff that’s going to turn you off or something you said will turn them off. But when you’re talking about passions something in your mind clicks and you strengthen the bond.

7. Share a recipe or hack you recently discovered

I’m all about hacks, life hacks, food hacks any kind of hacks. And when I discover something new I want to run out and share what I learned. So if you’re an explorer go out there learn something new and bring it back to share with your sibling(s) and you’ll be amazed if they hadn’t already learned about it. If that’s the case you can always learn how they’re using it and what progress they’ve made.

I’m sure there are a lot more ways to get closer to your siblings, if you have any suggestions, I’d love to hear about them. Because guess what, blood is thicker than water, hence why it hurts when your sibling says something that’s true. I love all of you and I totally care about you.

Thanks for reading and sticking around 🙂

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Aaroh – Sawaal

I’ve been a fan of this band since it came out back in 2003. I know it very well because we spent a considerable amount of hours listening and practicing the songs from the album.

The album has a total of 12 songs and full of emotions and love.

I came up with a little 5 verse poem, I know should’ve broken it down to 4 or move up to 6.

Here it is, in Urdu transliteration.

Ab Duniya main aye ho to Aik Din Sawaal karlo 

Keh Dil Ki Baaton Ko dil ki Aankhein na samjho

Yeh Aag Ki Tarha abh Jeeya to Na Kaho keh

Koi is Jalan seh Ajnabi na ban jai

Hoor to jab he milay jo kisi to Zarb na deh

TGIF!

Wow isn’t that a marketing term? Besides also being a restaurant with the same name.

It’s kinda appropriate because majority of the workforce in the US look forward to the weekend. Thanks God it’s Friday! To mark the beginning of the weekend. After 40-60 hours of work folks can relax and spend two days doing nothing or having fun with the families. Unfortunately we only get 52 weekends.

Which means we’re limited to about 104 days where we can plan out what we want to do. And guess what some weekends the weather isn’t right to go out and play with the kids. Other weekends we gotta go visit families and events. So now those 104 days get reduces down to an even smaller number.

Life is what we make it!

So what’s your plan for the weekend?

What are we going to do tonight Pinky?

If you haven’t heard of that phrase or watched a few episodes of the famous warner brothers tv show ‘Pinky and the Brain’ you’re totally missing out.

What’s really interesting about the show that stands out to me now more than ever is their relentless pursuit to take over the world.

In each episode Brain and Pinky two lab rats devise a plan that’ll help Brain run the world, their constant failures but then going at it again reminds me how many times we as humans need to persist and keep moving forward.

So today’s plan is to get back on the track to edit the backlogged episodes and keep moving forward.

I also learned a lot of new tips today that I didn’t k it in the beginning. And I think I can help others achieve their goals in building their personal brand as well as establish their authority.

What did you do today?

The power of reminders

It’s been overt 10 days since the last blogpost and that goes to show that if you’re not thinking about something constantly it’s not going to become a habit overnight.

First of all it is not healthy to be thinking about the same thing over and over that’s why we have reminders and habits.

Secondly, habits form after you consistently do something for 60+ days and adding too many things at once to that habit will also deter you from forming that habit.

A study revealed why most people are not able to keep their New Years resolutions and that is because we add too many thing too many resolutions on ourselves to accomplish.

Take exercising for example, let’s say you work out twice a month and you resolve to do it twice a week, that resolution is already flawed from the get go, because you might be able to stick with it for say 1-2 months, but it’s going to be super hard. Because you’ve added 600% more exercises to your month than you initially managed.

The ideal way to get to 2/week exercise would be to start with 1/week and continue that for 3 months, then introduce 2/week and keep that up for 3 months and gradually get good at keeping up.

So yes reminders are necessary, it can be a person reminding you to do your thing or an app. I remembered that I hadn’t written in 10 days so I thought to myself that I can simply set a reminder on my phone which is with me all waking hours of the day.

So now the reminders app will remind me everyday in the morning to write a blogpost. Hopefully this can help me form this essential habit.

When I restarted blogging I simply depending on my brain to remind me and we can’t do that all the time.

Off loading a simple task such as reminders to an app keeps your mind clear and focus on working more efficiently.

Yea it’s not a massive revelation but it’s good to come to some conclusions without jumping on a mat.